Tammy & The Bachelor (1957)

This is my first movie review, hence pardon me for the armature writing. I’ll get better with each movie for sure.

Tammy, a cheerful girl, who lives alone in a countryside with her grandpa, and hasn’t seen much of the “real” world and its ways. That innocence, charm and curiosity is very well displayed throughout the movie which can be totally credited to the fabulous screen presence of late Debbie Reynolds. Her clothing is neat and pretty and goes really well with her body language.Needless to say she is the protagonist of the plot and beautifully so. The character is a fascinating mix of wisdom and naivety of young woman. Also, there has to be a mention about her will to explore more about love and the openness she has to welcome a man in her life, which I think comes naturally to women after the across a age, doesn’t matter if they are secluded from the world or are very much around it.

Peter, who plays the interest of Tammy is lovely to watch on screen and gives out a nice character of a man who is discovering himself – professionally and personally. Though, the performance felt a little under cooked, it did match with the light and easy flowing script. All the other roles in the movie have their special places and strong characters and all of them have been used brilliantly to make the story funny and appealing. Here grandpa, whose presence is for a short while, needs a special mention as he delightfully conveys his wish for her grand daughter to experience new things around and is also a little worried about the same.

Although, the story is too happy to be real but does teaches us to take things lightly in life. Here, everything just comes to place like in a jig – saw puzzle with not very sharp edges of the pieces. But such movies have an interesting characteristic to deal with serious issues on subliminal level – by conveying the storms inside the characters on the surface level. The editing is sharp and does not drag the viewer at all. The set up and backgrounds though quite raw don’t seem to be too old and distant for a half a century old film. It still does makes sense technically – surviving the test of time.

It basically gives out a message of how an untouched air can be so fragrant and breath giving.

Obviously bearable and a classic treat for fairy tale lovers from the 1950s!

Complicated!

March,2012.

A big classroom with single benches separated by some distance, definitely in a regular order. First exam of 12th class board, nervous students waiting waiting for the question paper. Among them was a confident girl sitting right in the middle of the classroom, a little anxious about the exam but more distracted about something else. She looked at a boy sitting some two rows apart, who was gazing at high eucalyptus trees and their waving leaves outside the window. It started a month back.

Though they had been in the same school, and in the same class in fact, they first really talked on 26th January of the same year. Text messages, obviously, “digital age”. And during the period when they were texting every evening before the final examination and attending class, not once did they talked in the classroom. May be fear of being seen together, or may be shyness whatever it was. And it was that instant, maybe, in the classroom, where she fell for him.

Things changed a few months later, both of them were in different cities, “higher education”, you know. It gas been almost eight months now, they have developed into best friends, sharing all their fears and secrets, happiness and disappointments. Then came the first wave, one day the boy met with a girl in his town. They came closer and they were somewhere in the romantic sphere.

As for our girl, she was completely smitten by him. That “pure” form of love she had- all his happiness and nothing hers. Though there were confessions and conflicts, but their friendship seemed unbreakable. Basically, at that point the boy was was involved with both of them. Eventually, it became unbearable for our girl and she decided to leave, but she couldn’t. Why? Because unfortunately,  it was the same day when the boy came to know that he was being cheated. She sensed a ray of hope and stayed.

Some particulars about the girl now, she has been bought up in a happy environment, very positive and practical, with a edge of darkness- with a belief that whomever she wants to stay, would go. A little obsessive and clingy, one might say. Well this may explain the story above. More or less idealistic, and less or more crazy. She got closed to the boy at a time when she was in a desperate need of a friend, with whom she could talk, share, be happy.

And now continuing with the above story. A few months later the boy shifted somewhere near the girl’s town, as was the destiny. She stayed,as it was stated, but never peacefully. He never accepted her or her love. Sometimes, there was problem of his academic performances and sometimes his distrust with women, due to the past. Still she stayed, collecting hope from somewhere. And he kept trying to get away – stating there was no love. But still he was there somehow, she felt. And once, when she got a little hesitant and tried avoiding him. He drunk dialed. And stated all the things she had always wanted to hear. About a deep love. About various reasons on why it wasn’t possible and about how much he wanted it to happen. Such happiness right? But some days latter he snapped. Stating nothing of it as true and he didn’t meant any of it. Brutal, is the word. And they survived this as well. She survived.

They remained friends and a little more again. She thought, may be little steps would make a difference. She took it slowly. And one day, it happened that they met for a few hours. She cried in the train. He didn’t. He didn’t call for a while. And he again snapped. And this time it was severe. He again drunk dialed. And this time it was about how there are “0%” chances of them being together. And how there was no understanding between them  and how a girl he met in an internship had an “understanding”  with him. It was the final wave. All this time she waited because he never mentioned any other girl and this time he did. And with it, it was declared that there were so many other things she didn’t know. And this time she left. Exactly, 3 years 9 month after the first time they texted,

HAPPY JOURNEY!!

 

They say love is all about physical intimacy, being together, being nice to each other, treating each other as the most important people of each other’s lives. Its about appreciating each other for what you have and respect each other’s difference. But there are  things which are different, different from the usual, but still it is love! Sometimes its about hatred, its about frustration, irritation, having feelings beyond the usual ones when one is “in love”.

All stories don’t end up with a happy ending you know,  with a guy and a girl coming together and deciding to spend their entire life together and then the usual “happy ending”. Sometimes, things become complicated so complicated that even when one wants to settle everything out, one cannot. Life brings in such situations that even the wisest of the wise couldn’t resolve the complication, and bring  the “happy ending” for themselves . But that doesn’t mean there wasn’t any bonding between two hearts, or certainly this doesn’t mean what they experienced wasn’t love. You know some journeys take long to reach their final destinations. They have hurdles, problems and of course it seems like the  destination that you want could never be reached. But this doesn’t mean you don’t have anything left in your life and you must just grieve about how things changed and how the worst of all the bad things happened. You need to be optimistic, and you need to be practical with that optimism. Sometimes you do some mistakes which mess up things, which bring complications, bring misunderstating, and sometimes its he who gets confused with things in his life and about what he wants and about how he sees you and in what terms. And sometimes both of you do things which brings complications and lead to a situation where one or the other one starts feeling irritated or frustrated from the other. It may become so worse that a wave of hatred would travel all across your body piercing your heart whenever you hear about or remember “that” person. This may be because it was that person who changed you, made you a person, who, now don’t have trust on anybody, who, when makes a new friends thinks “oh..! gosh.. be careful dear, keep distance, this may be the next person who will tear your heart apart!”.  (yup it can become this critical.)

But, one important thing, this hatred isn’t same as you experience usually. This is different, very different,  complex and very difficult to resist and overcome. In this case, its about love, its about the frustration which come when you realize that you cannot be together, like you wanted it to be. Its because the person changed, or was always like he is now, but you failed to realize it soon enough. Its a feeling which comes up in your heart that there are uncountable reasons to be apart, but somehow you find a reason from somewhere and try to figure everything out, you starve for the same bond you had, and then suddenly you realize its not happening, this won’t happen again. So this isn’t a normal hatred,  this a deep embedded love, which wants to come up.. and shower itself to a person you deeply care about, but you cannot, because situations, broadly speaking life, doesn’t allow you to do so. I know this won’t sound appropriate, but if you experience such a wired feeling, cherish it, celebrate it. Its love, and love in any form is worth celebrating.

And yes,  with that feeling in heart, start moving on in your life. Do your work, do fun things,  don’t try to run away from this feeling, if you’ll do that, it will follow you, and then hunt you down, and this will hurt even worse. Its better, you learn to live with it and enjoy all the good things you have. Keep that feeling as a learning experience within you that would always help you to make decisions , wise decisions, and such decisions would eventually make you a better person. And you know journeys start to reach a destinations, not necessarily the destinations what you want, but surely to a destination, journeys leading to which would help you to learn, help you to become wiser, help you in becoming the ” new and surely better you”.

After all, life is not about the destination, its all about the what leads you their… the journey. 🙂